Topic Tuesday // Lets get real! Transitions into parenthood // Tues 12 Nov 7pm AEDT

[Sarzie]

For out first discussion point -

Most parents-to-be imagine what their new family will look like once baby arrives. If the expectation doesn’t match the reality this can be quite distressing.

Does this resonate with anyone? Was there a moment when you thought “this isn’t how it’s supposed to be”?

[Wanderer]

Thanks for the tag @Shaz51 

Hello @Former-Member @Sarzie @Julia2019 @PANDA 

I am reading through the posts, kinda floating in ptsd land at the moment but will look in again later.

7 children

[Shaz51]

Was there a moment when you thought “this isn’t how it’s supposed to be”?-- @Sarzie 

I could not have a child of my own which was hard to take and understand @Former-Member , @Julia2019 , @PANDA 

@CheerBear, @eth , @frog , @greenpea 

[Former-Member]

Welcome @Wanderer, great to have you here tonight. Thanks for reading along as well. No pressure, but really appreciate you sharing with us tonight.

[Shaz51]

@BlueBay, @Owlunar , @Faith-and-Hope , @Former-Member 

[Julia2019]

Hi @Shaz51 

Thanks for sharing, that sounds like that would be really hard.

I am wondering what that was like to suddenly find yourself in a parenting role?

[Jane06]

‘This isn’t how it’s suppose to be’ moment when my Son said Mum for the first time and I felt nothing/numb. No excitement, pride or joy. 

[Owlunar]

Oh boy - what a subject @Shaz51 

Like yours my transition into parenthood was a bit different - you suddenly had four step-children - shocker - and mine - and adoption - the day before I was at work and the next I was someone's mother - and not an easy baby either - 

That was culture shock - like yours "yeh - different" 

At least when I had my second child she came the regular was and I was prepared being an experienced mother already and having a pregnancy to get myself ready

I don't know if I have anyhthing to offer here but I just might - not everyone is the same and the differences add to life experience 

Thanks for tagging me

Dec

[Shaz51]

what that was like to suddenly find yourself in a parenting role?

interesting @Julia2019 

I remember thinking to myself I will not put any pressure on my step children -- I thought I would just be their friend and let their dad do the upbringing

my husband has inherited depression , bipolar 11 and other diagnosis

It did not take me long to relize that these children who all have their own degree of depression and 2 of them having ADhd needed more

and with a few comments from the children I had to change my thinking

and esp when the youngest started calling me mum and then the oldest boy called me mum

[Former-Member]

@Jane06 @Owlunar welcome! Its wonderful to have you join us tonight, thanks for coming along 😊