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[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member 😊💕
It's almost sleepy time for me.
Has your weekend been ok?
I don't think I'll be on here much longer, sorry. I've had a very emotionally draining weekend.

[Faith-and-Hope]

@Former-Member 

❤️💕

[Former-Member]

That's strange. There was a message from @Faith-and-Hope. I typed a reply, it disappeared.
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Nighty night everyone. 😴💕💗

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member

Its almost bed time for me too. I hope you have a good week and able to ground yourself a bit more. Perhaps a beach walk and swim. Take Care

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Former-Member ..... yes, it seems to have disappeared ..... 

I sent you a goodnight with a ❤️💕 On one thread, and just a ❤️💕 on another thread .... in any case, both are here now on this post ..... 😊

I am sorry it has been a bit of a gruelling weekend for you, but we are proud of how you sized up to that wedding anyway ..... and I wish you a speedy recovery of your equilibrium again in the aftermath .....

Rest well @Former-Member ..... the emotional work is as tiring as any physical labour ..... that was how I fell asleep so quickly this evening .... I know.

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[Former-Member]

Thanks @Former-Member 💗 I hope your week goes well. Chat soon. xo


Thanks for your kind message Faith-and-Hope 😙❤

I really hope that your week is less busy and that you get the rest you need. You need a pamper. xo

This morning I felt like I woke from a really bad nightmare (my weekend). I don't want a repeat of that again. I can't believe I spent all those years trying to please all those people and let them use me. I still feel very fragile, so I'm going to try and sleep now. 😴
Thanks for being there. You are a lovely friend.

Thankyou to everyone else that helped me through the horror weekend.

New week, new start. 😙👍❤❤

[Former-Member]

@Faith-and-Hope 😊💕
I forgot the @

[Faith-and-Hope]

WTG @Former-Member ...... turn the page .....

When I looked back on my early in-law issues, I can't believe how gullible and naive I was .... but you know what ? That was my integrity at the time ..... I knew no better than to be selfless and giving ..... that was all I had been exposed to in a family setting.

My life experience to that date had taught me to out my guard up in a school setting, and boarding school .... but that the odd bad-tempered bank clerk or someone you came across randomly must be having a bad day, or had trouble at home or something .....

I had great friends too. It seemed in fathomable that people could make a sport out of one-up-manship with their nearest and supposedly, dearest .....

Now I can "read the room" far more easily, and as emotional a time as it was, I think you will find that is what you were doing at the wedding ..... "reading the room" and seeing the people in a different light, from a different angle ..... and you had your daughter with you, who loves you, and can also "read the room" in her own right.

You may feel a degree of humiliation at how you had unwittingly allowed them to treat you .... I still do at times ..... but that can result in humbleness that overly-proud people don't possess ..... an I would like to think I function with a humbleness rather than arrogance. Try to chalk it up to making you a better person .... find the positive ..... every coin has two sides .....

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[Former-Member]

Hi everyone. 💕
Does anyone have any helpful hints on how to stop negative thoughts (caused by seeing people on weekend) from hurts disappointments etc from people?
Trying all I know to do. Mindfulness, deep breathing, distraction, trying to change thoughts.
Finding it really difficult. I want to move on.

Thanks again for lovely message @Faith-and-Hope. I don't have time to reply now, sorry. Super busy afternoon. 😯💗

[Former-Member]

Having a quick coffee break, picked up a Golden Gaytime while filling the car with petrol.

Anyone need a coffee/tea?