Something’s not right
@Former-Member, the local hand therapist and her doctor are both happy with her healing and function, so we didn't have to do the big drive to the surgeon's clinic.
She didn't get into the supported housing. They decided that she didn't sound like she was ready for the program. She's adamant that she was saying the exact opposite, but I don't think she realised how negatively she came across in the interview. e.g. shared meals would be difficult due to her food OCD; she might not be able to particiate in some sessions if she has a fibromyalgia flare up; she'd find living in a unit shared with someone she hasn't known beforehand a big adjustment. With the probable exception of the fibromyalgia, all things she's willing to work though, but they may well be right that she's not yet at the stage where she can succesfully do so.
They need a pretty high level of certainty that their accepted residents will stick out the one year program they run. So despite the disappointment on our part (it would have taken some pressure off us, and may have helped her to actually make some progress) it's probably a fair call. 
She can apply again, so we need to find some way of helping her see what they interpreted as "not ready" and work through those things. If possible, that needs to include her finding ways of pushing through the fibromyalgia pain, preferably by learning some pain management strategies that don't involve potent and potentially addictive painkillers. Shared household tasks won't work out too well if she's randomly in "too much pain" to pull her weight, for example. I could imagine any housemate getting frustrated by that pretty quickly.
