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emg_1
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Difficult situation

I have just come back "home" (where I live now with my partner) after spending some time where I grew up (another state), I find going up there and this time of year particularly difficult especially as a lot of people don't completely understand or agree with my relationship.

I have BPD and while I was up in QLD I was admitted to hospital.  It has taken a big toll on who I call friends and really shown who will stay by myside and who won't.

I suppose I just wanted to know if anyone else struggles this time of year and what you do to put yourself in yor best place of mind when you start to think things are falling appart or realise your brain is going to the place of self doubt and sabbotage? 

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Re: Difficult situation

This time of year can be really hard for a lot of us @emg_1.

The parties and socialising.  Working out where you'll be on Christmas Eve and Christmas day,  Boxing Day,  etc.  What to buy someone.  Do you have enough money?

It's called "the silly season " for a reason.  Though to me it doesn't feel silly,  it feels terrifying. 

High anxiety.  Lack of money.  Not wanting to socialise but still have to,  to give your kid a good Christmas.  Worrying if I'll have a panic attack.  Worry.  Worry.  Worry. 

How to get through this time of year? 

I allow myself 2 cans on bourbon on Christmas day.  I don't go to other parties leading up to Christmas.  Sometimes I stay home on New Years Eve. 

On Christmas day I do a lot of breathing exercises.  Sometimes I leave for an hour,  to clear my head and reduce my anxiety. 

You just need to try a few different things and see what works best for you .

Re: Difficult situation

Thank you so much for your feedback!

This time of year is a very silly season! I think I’ll take your advise on being quiet to the lead up and then taking time outs on the actual day!

I hope yours ruins as smoothly as possibly for you!

Re: Difficult situation

Hey @utopia we are having a chat on these exact struggles tonight over at Topic Tuesday in about forty minutes - the festive season can be tricky for sure, feel free to pop in 🙂 Heart 

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