12-11-2019 07:54 PM
12-11-2019 07:54 PM
Hi all. I'm late getting here because was out for the afternoon (3 hrs difference for us here in the west)
12-11-2019 07:54 PM
12-11-2019 07:54 PM
hello @cutiepiekitty
12-11-2019 07:59 PM
12-11-2019 07:59 PM
Hi @eth thanks so much for coming along and sharing.
You all have something very valuable to offer tonight regardless of your children being adults now- your early experiences of parenting and the challenges are really important to get real about tonight and help others learn and feel less alone too 🧡
12-11-2019 08:00 PM
12-11-2019 08:00 PM
@Sarzie actually I still have times when I don't feel good enough. Some of my child's health problems have taken until recently to be properly diagnosed. I tell myself I did the best I could at the time, but the reality is it wasn't good enough a lot of the time. Also bipolar episodes meant all sorts of risky adventures which I took them with me. Plus we had to deal with special ed. and all sorts of interventions in the early years so I felt I was under constant scrutiny which really added to the pressure.
12-11-2019 08:01 PM
12-11-2019 08:01 PM
Yes having confidence in my parenting and the belief I’m a good mum is something I still struggle with most days
12-11-2019 08:01 PM
12-11-2019 08:01 PM
Hi @cutiepiekitty - no problem at all, great to have you join us!
12-11-2019 08:01 PM
12-11-2019 08:01 PM
Okay - baby number 1
I had been in a job where they understood I would have to leave without notice and when we got a telegram that they had a baby for us it was full on - a trip to the hospital the next day and wow - what an unhapppy baby - the sh*t really hit the fan - he really let us know his displeasure and really? I don't blame him - he certainly did not ask for all of this
Totally unexpected
Baby number 2 - difficult pregnancy, early birth - for a months she was in hospital and we did not know at the time but the smell of formula still makes her feel sick.
But she knew us - she fitted into the family and all her life she has been a joy
Very different experiences yes - and neither easy - but that's what happened and it's all a long time ago but the memories are really clear
Dec
12-11-2019 08:02 PM
12-11-2019 08:02 PM
12-11-2019 08:02 PM
Hi @eth
Thank you for sharing your story. I imagine that must have been an overwhelming start to life as a parent!
I am wandering what sort of support you had when you were experiencing Post Natal Depression and Anxiety and what helped you in your recovery?
12-11-2019 08:05 PM
12-11-2019 08:05 PM
Oh boy - that's really premature and the dad leaving too @eth
That is really something - and add a mix-ed up dx and the wrong medication
What can I say - I hear you - that is one really early birth and one really premature baby
My hat's off to you
Dec
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