11-10-2019 12:27 PM
So much appreciate you kindness @Sherry . Sending best thoughts to you and your family. 💜💕💜💕💜💕💕🌻
11-10-2019 12:47 PM
11-10-2019 05:50 PM
@CheerBear Your psych sounds like someone very supportive and understanding. Yey for some good professionals out there. I so know that scary angry, we shouldn’t be pushed that far. But , them that has the gold makes the rules. 😡😡😡
Garden is a good outlet for angry, if you have the energy. By now it should all be ground level. You on the other hand need the soothing flow of a shower, which you don’t have. So not good enough. Do you have a friend who might let you use the shower? If you’re like me though, you won’t ask, you’ll put up with it. I’m guessing that’s the case.
I had a huge smile with sparkly boots being a must. Some things are a need @CheerBear not a want. 😁😁😁😁 I’ve always loved water. Something cleansing and refreshing. I read a book about its healing powers recently.
Yes, I saw my counsellor this morning. She straightened out some of my wonky thinking. Drs don’t have a say in the categories at the hospital, it’s the specialist who does that. So my Dr is off the hook. Still no closer to any help, but we will both keep gently pushing ahead. Like you, she sees I’m at breaking point, but there is no help there for me either. I don’t have family I can go to, nor friends. With both, I end up being the support person. I really don’t want hospital.
However, after another car breakdown and RACT start, my kind of friend and I charged the battery with a drive to the country. We stopped by the river, so absolutely breathtaking. Mountains in the distance. Just for a special treat, we saw ducks with two ducklings, a few roosters, of all things, and chickens. They must live near by, then go home to roost.
Home now, heat pack for aching bones, ready to watch better homes and gardens later tonight.
I hope there is some good somewhere in your evening, after quite a day of it all.
Take care @CheerBear lots of these. 💜💜💕💕💕💕💕💜💜☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️🙃
11-10-2019 06:08 PM
@Sherry I was literally walking, ( was about to say running 😩😩😩 ) out the door when I left my short reply to you.
I’m wondering how things are going for you and hubby, and BIL. I’ve no doubt you are stressed and tired after the trip and time change. Change can be stressful. I imagine time will be spent at the hospital and emotions will be running on high. Sending lots of thoughts your way @Sherry hoping there will be a break somewhere for you. Take care where you can. 💕💜💕💜💕💜💕☕️☕️☕️☕️
11-10-2019 08:42 PM
11-10-2019 08:59 PM
Very much hearing your frustration and anger at the hot water situation @CheerBear It is no small thing and the owner is making it even harder. He has an obligation to fix it as soon as is possible - do not take on his dramas because quite frankly they do not matter to you. Do you have a tenancy agreement? I don't know exactly what it looks like in your state but here there is provision for the renter to access emergency tradesmen for essentials like the hot water system. If you have one maybe give it a read over and see what you can do yourself.
I also very much hear you how close to the edge you are feeling. Having so much happen over so much time for you takes its toll Hon - and something like the hot water not being able to be used can be that breaking point. We require those things to go right in our lives in order to deal with the bigger things but when they are not working it feels impossible to pull ourselves back up.
I know you talked earlier about the break place but feel you cannot do thst right now with all that is happening ...but right now with the hot water not working would it be possible for you to have a couple of days to yourself with the kids staying at well and unwell's place for the weekend? Just a thought to maybe reset a little and do some things you want to do for yourself.
Here and listening if you need CB
11-10-2019 09:12 PM
11-10-2019 09:21 PM
You are doing well for not knowing what to say @CheerBear It is super difficult when you need an essential service but the fear that the landlord will not come to the party and cause more problems. Sometimes having rights does not equate to actual action and to solve that is even more stressful than just waiting ...so hear you on all that Hon.
I do hear you about the teo with the party and not wanting them to miss out. Can you take the time with the LF left to do something fun for both of you ...or alternatively set them up with something they can do on their own to give yourself a couple of hours break. You are really sounding like you need sleep and some peace Hon.
I know there are no easy solutions right now but use whatever supports you can CB and don't stress too much about the garden if you are not up to it - it will still be there next week.
Lots and lots of these and plenty of these 💐 for you @CheerBear .
11-10-2019 09:30 PM
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