Icaruslanded
Senior Contributor

How to heal over time

Waves

 

Universe

means ‘one song’

one with all, all as one

As a drop of water is part of the stream

so the stream is, at the same time, the drop of water

 

This expanse we live in…this mortal plane

passes by in but a blink, in the scheme of things

so we must use the time we have to make the most of this gift

yet sometimes, this gift we are given can seem like a prison sentence

 

I get it

 

But within the wrapper of any gift

is often a thoughtful surprise just waiting for us

once we take the time to look

our attitude determines meaning to us

so depending on our mental state

we see things not as they are

but based on our

current patterns

of thought

 

This is not reality, merely our perception based on our current experience

 

This is the great trickster of life.

 

You feel alone, yet you are more connected than you imagine

because it cannot be any other way.

You are part of the plan

here for a reason

and the world

is better

for it

yes?

 

You are part of the great ‘song’ of life

and it needs you to play your part

 

Expand your thinking outward

when life gets hard and focus on what could be

if life was better (because it is better than you currently believe)

Expand it bit by bit, step by step, until you can see some possibilities

Then from that new vantage point

focus on specifics you want

and keep narrowing

it down until it

is specific

 

and you will begin to feel whole once more

 

like waves on the beach, yes?

In…and out…expanding and contracting

the same, but different

two paths to the

same goal

whole

 

-😊 Icaruslanded 😊-

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Re: How to heal over time

Hello there, I'm quite new to this thread which was recommended to me.️ 

How extremely timely as recovery and healing are what I am desperately seeking right now. 

@Icaruslanded 

Your words are beautiful and on so poignant. I thank you sincerely. 

My spirit to yours, Taali 💝

I don't mean to be exclusive but couldn't tag others here.

Re: How to heal over time

Hey @Taali
I am having trouble logging on to the site lately and have not got a reply yet from IT. It started with me not being able to use my phone internet and now my computer, which is irritating, I hope you get this message anyway. Thank you for your lovely compliment, it's much appreciated, and I am glad it helped you. I like to allegory, metaphors and rhymes to paint a picture that speaks to people on a deeper level. Sometimes I am a bit sneaky with some of my poems and even hide three or four messages in the one poem (haven't done that yet on here, stay tuned). My spirit to yours my dear, healing takes time and I speak from the experience of one who has gone through hell and back so I understand it and like to help others on their journey.

Re: How to heal over time

Thanks so much.
I just wallowing right now

Re: How to heal over time

@Taali it seems to have come right thankfully, must have been a glitch. I hope you are okay?

Re: How to heal over time

Good to know @Icaruslanded .

Mmmm truthfully, I'm not doing very well at all right now.

I do appreciate you asking. 

Took a pretty big psycho-emotional tumble today. 

Trying desperately to settle my troubled mind so I can get some sleep tonight. 

Not up to sharing atm, feeling a bit too troubled to find my way out of the long and dark tunnel that I have found myself in. 

I'll be okay, just don't know when. 

That's me done for now, I'm spent.

Major self loathing and helplessness blanketing me.

Hoping that I can find some strength and even aim for some acceptance.

Not sure if I have the strength to fight right now. 

No explanation for the intensity and depth of today's plunge. 

I'll get there. Writing that as a statement of fact rather than an elusive intention smacks of dishonesty with which I'm most uncomfortable. 

Blah, blah...

Sorry to lay that on you buddy.

Going to the dreaded bedroom now.

Please take care and don't let my sh!t burden you.

Taali 💙 

 

Re: How to heal over time

@Hey Taali, I got up for a little bit to watch a movie, its just 4 degrees at the moment here brrr.
I can certainly relate to what you shared, and don't worry, you are not a burden at all. That feeling of apathy, isolation and sense that there is no point or end to things is a scary place to be. I fight this a lot being out of work and the constant parade of "what ifs" that course through one's mind.
It really feels like a heavy, wet blanket sometimes, doesn't it? Rather than fight when you feel like the fight is gone, wouldn't it be easier to let go and flow instead? The sense of heaviness comes from feeling like you have to fight but have nothing left, then the impossible standards we set (only applicable for when we are on top and rosy) make us feel like a loser, so we loathe ourselves, if that makes sense?

Right now its a cold winter morning and everything is slow, cold and more challenging. But the morning always breaks and the sun eventually comes out, doesn't it? Sometimes its best to just stay warm, cuddle the cat and focus on all we have around us, no matter how small or large that may be...we have enough usually fir our needs or close to it. There is a time to rest and a time to stress (work), a time to plan and a time to reflect, isn't there? And in stillness we reflect, we see more clearly, we relax, we appreciate and we anchor ourselves? This too, shall pass...we use what we have in our season and move forward however we can when we can without pressure...then we don't loathe ourselves. Little steps forward, celebrate each one, makes you love yourself, then you want to add more. Does a rose unfurl all at once after the rain? Hmmmm. You take care okay, always here if you need a chat

Re: How to heal over time

I heard about a speech one time that had a profound effect on me. I would like to share it, along with some thoughts. Enjoy...

 

The speaker looked out at his packed audience, his eyes slowly scanning the crowd in silence. Then he pulled out a crisp $50 notes, held it up and spoke: “Here is a brand new $50 notes - who wants it?

 

Hundreds of hands shot up. A slight smile played out on his face as he acknowledged the anticipation. “Well, what if I do this to it?” he said, as he crushed the note into a tight ball in his hand. The same hands remained high. “Interesting.”

 

“Okay, well, what if I do this as well…” as he sliced several times into the notes with a small pair of scissors he pulled out of his pocket. The same hands stayed up. “And this…?” he continued, as he finally crushed the note, under his foot, rather like one would stub out a cigarette. He continued deliberately, still scanning the crowd slowly, watching their reaction with interest.

 

He reached down and picked it up. The note was now dirty, torn and rumpled - totally different from how it looked when he first pulled it out. He gazed thoughtfully at the crowd for a few more seconds and then spoke again…

 

“You all saw me take out this brand new $50 note a few moments ago and you all wanted it. Yet, I have torn it, creased it, damaged it, but every time I asked if you still wanted it, everyone still wanted it, and still does. What does that tell you? It says plainly that you still see the same value in it, doesn’t it? Despite the cosmetic damage, you all know to a person - it holds the same exact value as it originally did. How does this relate to your own worth?”

 

The audience was silent while everyone thought through how profound his statement was.

 

“All of us start off pristine - a table rasa, a clean slate. Yet, as we progress through this thing we call life…this short journey in time - we slowly take on damage. But we keep going. We might endure something that feels like it crushes us…but somehow we keep going. Perhaps we feel dirty and torn, shabby and old maybe…but we push forward. We may feel worthless, but deep down a part of us…our deepest, wisest, oldest part…knows we still have the same value. In fact, unlike the $50 note, our value increases over time, because with every bit of damage we weather, we learn more and we can learn to adapt and become stronger - not just for ourselves, but for others too. Sometimes we endure enormous pain to protect and nurture those who depend on us. What could be of greater value than this?”

 

Know. Your. Worth. You are here for a reason - the universe does not play favourites, even though, on the surface that might seem to be true. The reality is that we get a shot in this life. Everyone does. What we choose to do with that depends largely on what we believe about ourselves and what we think we are capable of. There will always be doubts - good, use them to make yourself better, overcome them and triumph in spite of them. There will always be bullies out to make your life hard, but bullies are gutless, weak people desperate to “prove” the lie they tell themselves - they are somehow superior to you - when the truth is, they are the exact opposite inside. Strength does not need proving, it simply is. It is not loud, it is quiet, enduring, permanent, real.

 

It usually takes several tries before you become good at the basics. It then takes continuous effort and work to perfect it. This is the price of success, but it is a price worth paying. If you have taken on more hits than you have felt comfortable with, rather than let it overwhelm you, step back, look within. Your past self is still inside - the you that was, and is, before the storm. Remember that person? Ask how they would handle things - they are always there and you have enormous value, despite all the weathering life has thrown at you.

 

@Taali @Shaz51 @Dimity @DogMan79 @Jynx @Emelia8  

 

- Icaruslanded

Re: How to heal over time

@Icaruslanded 

So profoundly true!

Re: How to heal over time

@Taali hope you got some sleep and are feeling a bit better today.