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20-08-2017 01:54 PM
20-08-2017 01:54 PM
Really wobbly
Any advice and suggestions about how to stay grounded and do self care much appreciated. I have some big stressors in my life right now. That combined with Bipolar 1 and Anxiety is really knocking me around. Trying to sell home as result of marriage breakdown, pay debts, find new home. My daughter (who is my main support) is leaving home (can't blame her). I have a young son to look after and I'm trying to protect him from the strain of the situation. All this is coming off the back of a mixed episode, which has recently been replaced by plumetting mood and skyrocketing anxiety. I am teary and on the verge of panic and need to talk myself down - there's noone else to do it. The future is scaring me.
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20-08-2017 02:06 PM
20-08-2017 02:06 PM
Re: Really wobbly
I'm going to tag @outlander here because she's awesome with passing on excellent grounding and mindfulness techniques which could be of help to you.
My best advice for you is to keep posting here. Vent, nut out your feelings. We'll all be here listening @frog. I'm sorry to hear life stress is overwhelming for you at the moment.
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20-08-2017 03:30 PM
20-08-2017 03:30 PM
Re: Really wobbly
Hi @frog
Sounds like you are really reaching out to help yourself, actively looking for ways to help yourself i mean. I have a lot of trouble iwth anxiety but not related to bipolar stuff. Alot of the times i tend to just have to push through the stuff that is causing the most anxiety because it's unavoidable situational stuff. People say that pushing through it shows you that you can do it... but haven't really found any relief in that sentiment.
Glad you are reaching out here. Is there anything in particular that is worrying you or causing the anxiety to go so high that you can/ or want to talk about here? The future is so unknown its also frightening for me. I try to keep a pretty fixed schedule and routine for the immediate stuff but its anything beyond the next day or week that is more terrifying for me.
Hope you're doing ok,
lj
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20-08-2017 04:39 PM
20-08-2017 04:39 PM
Re: Really wobbly
Thanks @Former-Member routine helps me too. I guess my anxiety is mostly around all the housing stuff and it is really upending my routine. I have touble with the 'just go with it' sentiment but my default, which is holding on too tight in an effort to control, just makes things worse. I'm trying to find a balance.
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20-08-2017 04:51 PM
20-08-2017 04:51 PM
Re: Really wobbly
I can understand holding on too tight and needing that control. I think i sometimes hold on so tight to the way things are that i cant loosen my grip to all anything to change (for good as well as bad..) opportunities pass me by because of this i think.
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20-08-2017 05:02 PM
20-08-2017 05:02 PM
Re: Really wobbly
Wow @Former-Member 'cant loosen my grip to all anything to change (for good as well as bad..)' That sounds so much like me. I also feel like if I loosen my grip I'll fall. I guess it's a matter of degrees. Maybe it's like a messy knot and can only ease bit by bit.
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20-08-2017 05:16 PM
20-08-2017 05:16 PM
Re: Really wobbly
i also like the idea of loosening the knot bit by bit. i guess everything in small increments will get us where we want to be... Now... where do we want to be?
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20-08-2017 07:09 PM
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21-08-2017 07:14 AM
21-08-2017 07:14 AM
Re: Really wobbly
Thank you @Shaz51 I do feel less alone since I joined the forum. It is hard to make these sort of connections in my day to day life. I find mornings the hardest when I'm anxious. It feels relentless. If I can just get moving, however slowly, it sometimes eases a bit later in the day. Hope your day goes ok too.
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21-08-2017 07:19 AM
21-08-2017 07:19 AM
Re: Really wobbly
It's a relief to find other people with similar struggles @Former-Member I haven't been able to connect like this in my day to day world. As to where I want to go, when I'm feeling so bad I can't even think like that. It's really important for me to remind myself that these mind-battles ebb and flow. Right now it's full on. I see my psychiatrist tomorrow and I suspect he'll want to adjust my medication. This is a good thing, though I find myself worrying about the $ I need to find for the consultation. Thanks for engaging. It helps.