Delusional Jealousy Disorder

[Avamarie]

Hello, I am currently in crisis trying to support my 67 yr old husband for the last year. He is undiagnosed as he will not accept treatment and can present well to doctors. I have had to leave home and am renting a room. He accuses me of having affairs, checking my phone, checking car mileage and much more. Drinking heavily, reclusive, wanting marriage to be over after 27 years, not eating properly, refusing help. I have tried mental health triage but he refuses to get help.

It has happened before earlier in our marriage but I didnt understand what it was and thought he had trauma from his previous marriage.

We had our retirement planned together but he suddenly changed unsure of what triggered him and he is a completely different man to me. Any suggestions? Thank you

[hopeful_hannah]

Good morning @Avamarie 

I'm so sorry to read you are having such a hard time at the moment. It's incredibly hard knowing how to help a loved one who may not recognise they have a problem or want to get help. My heart goes out to you; it sounds like a really challenging situation. 

Have you got support? It might be a good idea to go and see your GP and ask for some help to link in with community supports. The GP can do a mental health care plan and help with referrals. 

Ask Izzy is a website you can use to look for community support in your local area. It might be worth having a look. 

SANE has a free program you can sign up for to get one on one support.

You can find more information and the registration form here: Welcome to SANE’s Recovery Club

RecoveryClub is a free, 6-month digital program that offers evidence-based recovery resources, 1:1 support, online groups, and peer support connections to help you build confidence and develop practical skills for your wellbeing and recovery.

I'm sure others in the forums community will jump in to offer some support and experience. 

You're not alone ok? 

There are some numbers I'll share that you might like to keep handy if you wanted to talk to someone:

Lifeline Lifeline provides free, 24/7 telephone crisis support
Phone - Call 13 11 14

Chat – Visit

https://www.lifeline.org.au/crisis-chat/

Beyond Blue
24/7 support for depression, anxiety and suicide.

Brief counselling sessions via phone or webchat.

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/

Phone - Call 1300 22 4636

Chat - Visit https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/talk-to-a-counsellor/chat

1800RESPECT National domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service.
Call 1800 737 732

Text 0458 737 732

Chat – Visit https://www.1800respect.org.au/

I'm sending you all my best this morning. Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly. 

hopeful_hannah 💌

[PeppyPatti]

@Avamarie @hopeful_hannah 

My name is Peppipetty 

look you have done nothing wrong. 
the most important thing is at your age and my age - is that your safe and no one yells at you. 

I have a similar issue except it’s absolutely nothing like you are dealing with. 

[Avamarie]

Thank you, I have used lifeline earlier in the year, RESPECT as well, they have been great. I have had therapy but they say I am managing reasonably well under the circumstances, I have seen social worker who gave me a week to leave the home several months ago. I see my doctor regularly, she has emailed my hubbys doctor but nothing has happened.My main concern is for my husband as I would like a diagnosis and for him to get help, even if he doesnt want to be with me but at least to have a better life for himself. I will reach out to SANE for advice.

[PeppyPatti]

Great idea 

this is something I’m thinking about too